I think you've missed the point of the poem. Its that soldiers fight for eveyone's rights, whether they like them or what they are doing, and that people should never forget that.
I'm pretty sure soldiers don't fight against being sent to war, because if so they're in the wrong jobs, you know the risks when you sign on the dotted line.
Reaserch, I live it love! But I do wish your father a safe return from the stan and am sorry to hear about your husbands close shave, I know what its like to loose people that way. All the best.